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 FACEBOOK: Adoption Destabilized (1.15 MB) EBook Published December 2010, available to download now
This 39 page Ebook has been published to coincide with the BBC Radio 4" All in the Mind" programe on the impact of Facebook on Adoption broadcast on 14th December 2010.
By linking the concepts of trauma, trust, contact principles, chilldrens developmental needs, toxic parenting and therapeutic reparenting, Helen illustrates the dangers for adopted children and their families when contact via Facebook intrudes.
The Ebook has models, diagrams, theory, case studies, metaphors and charts to make the issues clearer.
BBC World Service Article (Adoption experts warn on dangers of online search) and Medical Matters broadcast 21st December 2010
The articles below were originally printed in Adoption Today, the bimonthly magazine produced by Adoption UK. Please do not reproduce or copy any part without written permission of the author.
Shame and Shadow Facebook part2 (892.49 kB) June 2010
This article explains why giving a child their detailed history reduces shame and allows them to build a solid sense of self. It also includes many practical "how to" suggestions for professionals and parents to endure a safe place for therapeutic reparenting can continue after birth families reconnect via Facebook.
Sunday Observer 23 May article & 7 minute video by Channel 4 News on impact of social media on adoption
http://www.channel4.com/news/articles/uk/social+networking+sites+threaten+adoption+policy/3656647
Facebook: Direct contact with no safeguards part 1 (2.2 MB) April 2010
Facebook and social networking now allows birth families via cyberspace to find and connect to children who were adopted. This is causing huge issues in many adoptive families where children are being destabalised and retraumatised by this unwelcome intrusion.
Child abuse victims needs more than our sympathy (120.34 kB) May 2009
The media interest in maltreatred children doesn't extend to the long term impact of trauma, but national press coverage about Baby Peter, raises the existance of abuse in infancy. These children are likey to suffer from Developmental Trauma Disorder - the child version of PTSD
Invisible wounds dont stop hurting (36.95 kB) Feb 2009
Linking national press interest in death of 'Baby Peter' to adoption challenges and "A Mother Like Alex" book and SKY documentary. It includes the detailed costings for Children in Care and contrasts the invisible wounds from maltreatment which are viewed unsympathetically by society compared to children with visible differences.
Valuing your needs (1.37 MB) Adoption Now 2
In this article needs and linked to values to make sense of how parenting traumatised children can impact adults in surprising ways
Toxic Shame (43.78 kB) October 2008
Using John Bradshaws WONDERFUL model this articles considers the long term consequenses of inadequate caregiving on children at specific developmental stages
Toxic Parents (61.79 kB) August 2008
Using Dr Susan Forwards model of 6 types of toxic parents and how they damage their children. This artice links it to adoptive parenting and how infant maltreatment has lasting effects
Measuring Trauma (135.63 kB) June 2008
Components of trauma are compiled in a formula to explain the benefits of early interventions
Cost of Trauma (39.36 kB) April 2008
A simple cost benefit analysis demonstrating why early therapeutic interventions with traumatised children will save money and heartache
Robust matching for permenance (40.42 kB) February 2008
Why the approval and matching process needs to be solid, well thought through and involve creative and varied approaches
Am I bothered (25.3 kB) October 2007
How the the values which motivate our behaviour can usefully be identified, respected, modified and changed enhancing our parenting skills
What triggered that? (122.55 kB) Part 2 August 2007
Linking sensory triggers, different perspectives, reframing and the need for childrens accurate historical information especially the ghastly abusive bits.
What the *** was that about? (61.75 kB) Part 1 June 2007
Some neuroscience linking unconscious mind and memory to triggers and behaviours
Are you a boiled frog? (78.26 kB) Part 2 April 2007
The 'flow' coaching model demonstrates how living with stealing and lying can shift from anxiety to boredom, but suck adopters identity.
Increase the flow with a 'SUD' (69.24 kB) Part1 Feb 2007
Reducing anxiety and a tool to callibrate 'Subjective Units of Distress', useful for adults and children
Expectations, reality and time travel for heroes (596.89 kB) Adoption Now 1
Taking a long term view of adoptive parenting linking attachment, behaviour, beliefs and impact of maltreatment. A simple NLP process allows the reader to travel between guessed pasts and possible futures to inform the present.
Is this what I expected (42.9 kB) October 2006
Why adopters facing the challenges of parenting hurt children need to constantly adapt their expectations to maintain some sanity
Wish List (330.12 kB) Chapter Two in "Models of Adoption Support" published by BAAF in 2003: 14 page, 7300 words
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